Its the attitude of Zimbabwean men which has its roots deep in tradition and folklore that has led to the spread of AIDS, its a common secret that Zimbabwean men promiscuous. Take Gonzo, he is married his lawful wedded wife stays at home (like
she is supposed to they he argues to look after the kids he adds convincingly. Gonzo starts an extra-marital affair and openly boasts about it, he wines and dines his mistress while proclaiming to have no money to buy his own kids decent clothing. His kids do not even know him he comes ritually atmidnight and leaves early while they are sleeping. His after work sojourn takes him from work to the pub for one or two with his co-workers and then after that he makes a booty call at his mistress's. Gonzo does not hide his dislike for condoms saying he wants to feel the real thing, so when he arrives home and demands sex as he always does, his wife refuses until he puts on a condom. Gonzo is livid that he wife whom he paidlobola with 12 living cattle can suggest that in his own house that he works hard for put on a condom. He beats his wife blue-black and calls her a whore while asking, where the hell did she learn about condoms and who gave them to her. Her answers muffled by crying sounds are lost as she explains she got them from the outreach Community workers that advise women about family, sex and protection against HIVvirus. Gonzo's wife had reluctantly told the Community worker that her husband kept a "small house" as extra-marital affairs have come to be known as in Zimbabwe, and that she feared the risk of contracting HIV. The community worker then suggested condoms,Gonzo's wife took them despite knowing that her husband will never put them on. Gonzo might be fictitious character but he is a perfect caricature of a Zimbabwean man just as Mubhawu is and that illustrates how Zimbabwean men treat and feel about women. Mubhawu might have been suspended again a bold statement but that goes a long way to address and change the mindset of Zimbabwean men which isaccepted by many as the norm.
A lot has been written about the rate of marriage breakups of Zimbabwean couples in the diaspora but it needs no analyst to see where the bone of contention is. In
Zimbabwe things like domestic violence are not openly spoken about most cases are mostly ignored as Police and charity organisation workers call them Friday to Monday syndrome. According toMsasa Project a Zimbabwean charity organisation that deals with problems in marriage and offers shelter to women fleeing domestic violence, a Zimbabwean woman gets beaten by her husband on Friday when he is drunk and has been paid, the wife calls the police and thehusband is duly arrested, he spends the weekend behind bars. He uses one of his privileged calls to his in-laws threatening to divorce his wife if she does not withdraw her case against him. Again the Zimbabwean mindset comes into play and the mother-in law calls her daughter pleading with her to drop the charges as shedoesn't want a grown woman back at her house with
people calling her a whore. So the wife reluctantly travels to the police station were she states that she wants to drop the charges against her hubby who returns home on a Monday hence the Friday to Monday syndrome. Now take that mindset and bring it to the diaspora, the same Zimbabwean husband beats his wife and here the charges cannot be dropped the police will pursue the issue until they are satisfied that you have mend your ways i.e will no longer beat your wife. Not only that, the more the years pass that Mugabe continues to oppress people, she starts to take notice of the different mindset like how women are treated in the diaspora both at work and within their homes. She sees the contrasting difference to the cycle of violence she is used
to and who could blame her if she decides to leave him.
I have argued that if we are to built a new Zimbabwe we will need more than just eliminating Robert Mugabe. We will need to change our parochial views of the world. The way we treat our women, our attitudes towards corruption, what Zimbabwe owes us or rather what we owe Zimbabwe.
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The sad story of women in Zimbabwe whose life expectancy has been cut short not by natural causes but by the brutal government of Robert Mugabe. Read it for yourself